“If you don’t like where you are, move. You are not a tree”
Are you afraid of change? Change makes me nervous. I’m excited – filled with anticipation of what’s to come. I’m also afraid – of the unknown. I don’t know what’s coming so I can’t control it, prepare for it. If I listened to my fears each time change happened I’d be in the same place I was ten years ago. No growth, no new experiences, just same old predictable me.
The good thing about change is you always learn something new, even if it’s unpleasant. It could be a life lesson- like letting go of that wrong “love” or not killing yourself for that self-serving boss. Change also allows you to move on from an unhappy place. If there is something that you don’t like, change it….at least take concrete action to make improvements – spruce up that resume and network, call your sibling and work out your differences …. No one or nothing has absolute control over you. We are free people. So use that privilege to make the right changes; it could mean your happiness and peace.
“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.”
Have you ever felt you were running out of time? Have you felt a sense of urgency to get something done? How do you reign in the galloping horses in your mind and get to setting a plan to achieve your goal?
I have many thoughts and ideas but find it hard to concentrate on one thing. I work on this a little bit, that a little bit… but this isn’t always productive because it takes a long time to fully accomplish one thing. So I think what I will focus on doing now is setting goals and creating timelines of when I want to accomplish a task. I’ve been told for years the importance of setting goals; in my mind I set things I want to accomplish but rarely have I put them down in writing: to make it real, concrete.
For example, I want to publish a book. I haven’t decided if it will be a children’s book, a fictional novel, a first person documentary, etc. What I’ve been doing wrong is playing out stories in my mind but not putting them in writing, or starting on one story but not working it all the way through. So what I’m determined to do is create a writing schedule and make time to complete a book. This I know will make me happy.
What are some of your goals? What steps will you take to reach your goal? Where will you look for inspiration?
I could never pick just one as my favorite because there’s something captivating about each. Yellow is fun and whimsical; pink is soft and nurturing; red is bold and feisty, purple is royal; green is natural and calming while blue is energetic; black is confident and strong while white is pure…at least that’s how I view them. So I tend to say my favorite color is in the berry family, like fuchsia or magenta. They’re Striking yet not over bearing. So beautiful. But truly I love most colors. Color adds texture to your personality.
What color would you use to describe how you’ve been feeling?
I’d say lately I’ve been a mashup of many colors. With the pace of life- trying to get to and balance each responsibility- with life constantly changing and having to make adjustments, it all can be overwhelming. I balance that by making time for the more important things which include taking care of me. If I’m constantly expending myself then one day I’ll be all used up. What’s that line from that Bill Withers song, “keep on using me till you use me up”? That doesn’t work for me. And it shouldn’t work for you either.
Because we’re industrious and compassionate many of us tend to give our best to everyone else, like our employers and family, and what we have left for ourselves is just the rest. Keep going like that and eventually you’ll have nothing for yourself or others.
So take time to enjoy the colors of life. “Taste the rainbow”. You’ll be happier, and since joy is contagious you’ll inspire others to be colorfully happy too.