Have you ever been in such a state of mind that you can’t calm down or think straight? You’re full of anxiety and stress? You can’t rest your mind, sleep through the night, eat healthy – you either over indulge in junk food or not eat at all? Then you decide to talk it out with people who “understand” your situation. In the midst of garnering support you find that you’re more upset and unproductive. Why? Harping on a problem rather than strategically mapping out a plan to address it makes the situation worse, and being fueled by others with negativity prolongs your misery.
I feel a good solution to combating negativity is 1) staying away from more negativity – including people, 2) taking time to breathe and gather yourself – clearing your mind will help you gain a better perspective of the situation, 3) counting your blessings. Show gratitude for the smallest blessing: like breathing.
When you come up with great ideas and you share it with others and you’re not met with excitement, rather discouraging words – all the reasons that you shouldn’t or can’t pursue your dreams, ignore it. Don’t be discouraged by the naysayers. Pursue your goal, go for it. Whether it takes you time to achieve it and you have to revise along the way, or you achieve immediate success, or even if ultimately it does not work out. You’re not a failure. Having ambition and putting in the work itself is success. Now any wins along the way are extra blessings.
Keep going, even if the road seems a bit lonely. You’ve got this!
I heard this word today by a motivational speaker. She made the point that when you know you are enough you will stop the struggle to get more and learn to accept, allow, and attract all that adds to you instead of who/what subtracts from you. When you know you have enough the desperate drive to get more will be replaced by the comforting flow of gratitude.
I paused and reflected on this and I must say she made valid points. Thoughts that kept coming to mind after this were: rat race, perfectionism, being over spent, overspending, keeping up with the Jones, anxiety, frustration. None of that is appealing, or lead to happiness and peace.
When we’re content we’re happy. What defines your contentment? I value peace tremendously. If it means staying away from the malls and online shopping for months to cut back on financial stress then I do it. If it means getting together with a friend at my favorite gelato shop I do it. If it means buying a plane ticket to an exciting new destination…yup I do it. But if it also means saying no….I do that too. With time I’m learning to be content with enough. I have enough of what I need, I am enough as a person so I make a great friend/companion/mate…
But truly, when you learn contentment- being satisfied with the things you have without constantly focusing on what you don’t have- your joy increases. You’ll realize you have enough.
“Some people feel the rain, others just get wet.” – Bob Marley
It’s all in your attitude. What your mind thinks your heart feels. What your heart feels reflects in your speech, demeanor, and health.
These past few weeks have been tough. I allowed myself to be filled with negative thinking and overwhelmed with anxiety. Some problems I created in my mind- situations that really didn’t even exist, or wasn’t as bad as I made it out to be. I felt physically and emotionally drained, barely able to get on with my days. What I learned from this is the mind is very powerful, what we feed it will define what we get from it.
So to get over this slump I had to actively work at controlling my thoughts. Each time I was well up with anxious thoughts I prayed. I prayed for a calm heart and positive thoughts. Then I focused on something good, like the picture of my nephew being silly trying to eat his first cantaloupe 🍈. Other times I talked it out with a friend. Friends are blessings for sure. Exercising helps too, you release negative energy while taking care of your health. But I think what step must be taken is taking time to analyze the situation. Is it really as bad as you made it out to be? Oftentimes you’ll find the situation is workable. What can help you feel better is how you view it. If your thoughts are negative you’ll stress more and find you have little energy to make it through the situation. On the other hand if you put things in perspective you’ll find a bit of courage to carry on.
So don’t just get wet in the rain; feel it. Yes life is tough, but there are many blessings to be had if we appreciate the little things- like the rainbow that came out after the rain. Focusing only on bad things will rob you of joy. You can’t live fully without joy. Continue to count your blessings and make each day count.