Empathy

“You can only understand people if you feel them in yourself“

 

Can you imagine facing tragedy, heartbreak, or pain and not having anyone to support and comfort you? That would make the obstacle that much harder to get through.  So can you be that friend, brother, sister, aunt, niece, cousin… that others can turn to for comfort and encouragement?

Recently a friend lost her mother, another lost her son, and another confided they’ve been battling depression and frightening  thoughts.  And still if you watch the news your heart surely aches for all the tragedy in the world.  I know I can’t solve the world’s problems nor do I always have the right words of comfort, but I think what means most to the sufferer is my presence.  Being genuine and understanding that they feel pain, and though I can’t remove it, I understand and I’m suffering with them.  That’s what empathy is.  Being able to feel what the other person is feeling then showing compassion.  We were created with this divine quality so we could add color and love to one another’s lives in this cold, dark world. It helps makes trials bearable.  We can face them with courage knowing that our loved ones encircle us ready to carry us through.

I hope you have empathetic friends in your circle.  I hope you’re that empathetic friend in return.

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Celebrate your Success

If you don’t celebrate success it won’t celebrate you.

Sometimes we forget to be proud of ourselves, to celebrate our accomplishments.  We get wrapped up in setting up/ meeting/ exceeding the next goal we forget to enjoy the present one.  Or we focus on what we haven’t accomplished, what weighs us down, daily responsibilities…kill joys.

But I have so many friends who are achieving goals and I want them to know I celebrate them, I’m proud of them, and they inspire me.  Some are taking charge of their health by meal planning, eating clean, exercising.  Some have started their own businesses, while  others have moved on from un-supportive employers to ones that  meet their needs.   Others have moved places to follow their dreams.  Many are raising successful families – some as single parents; some have written books, while others courageously face the world each day despite illness and anxieties.

What I realize all of these people have in common is faith and the belief that they deserve happiness and peace.  So they set goals and take action until they succeed.  It’s such a good feeling when you attain a desire.  This joy could be fleeting though if you don’t celebrate your accomplishment because you feel you must find something else to do right away.  Of course it’s good to keep growing and learning and progressing.  But it’s just as important to pause and reflect on your successes. You’ll feel a sense of gratitude, contentment, pride, and motivation to keep pushing forward.  If not, it will be a never-ending rat-race that will sap your energy.

So take a moment and reflect on how you showed up and showed out. I bet you killed the game.  Now I bet you’re beaming with pride.

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Resilience

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The bamboo that bends is stronger than the oak that 
resists.

 

Toughness.  The ability to recover from difficulties.  Resilience.

This is not always easy. Especially when the problem is challenging and long-lasting. You can feel defeated, hopeless, tired, and want to give up.  But giving up should never be a first option.  True, at one point you have to learn to let go, but that’s only after you’ve tried everything possible to make the situation work.  Once none of your efforts pan out then maybe it’s time to consider a different option, another angle, a new strategy.

In the meantime find the strength to endure by praying for courage and to have the right attitude.  Find a confidant and reveal your concerns, share ideas and solutions. Take time for self-care, to rest, have fun. Contemplate on all that you’ve overcome and survived, all your blessings.  Sing a joyful song loudly, go on a nature walk and enjoy the magnificent creation around you.  You’ll find a measure of peace and clarity.

Challenges don’t define us.  But the lessons we learn and the characteristics we develop from them often do.  So learn resilience.  Don’t give up quickly or give others your power. Resilience will help you cope with life’s challenges with hope -eager expectation, expectation of good .  This way you’ll always be victorious.

 

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Uniqueness

“always remember just how rare you are – there is no one quite like you.”

I like this thought.  I am uniquely and divinely designed with love.  I am the sole prototype of me, I cannot be duplicated.  I am fine as I am, a rare treasure.

That’s true of you too.

Self-love is important.  When we love ourselves we take time to improve our character, our health, our intelligence…; we try to be the best version of ourselves.  We don’t compare ourselves – our accomplishments, failures, circumstances- to the next person.  We don’t let who the next person is or has define our worth.  We modestly accept that we’re unique – we accomplish impressive things, yet we never think we’re better than the next person- who to is a unique prototype.

We don’t let people talk down to us, belittle us, or make us feel worthless.  Even failures don’t define us – instead we learn and grow;  we don’t fit into just any mold.  We were created with a variety of attributes and characteristics that makes us unique.  Embrace them and shine brightly in your own space.  Move over, there’s enough room.

 

My day off

“Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.”

I took the day off today and tomorrow.  I feel so happy. I’m learning the importance of self-care and being in tune with my mental, physical, and emotional needs.  I woke up early still but an instant smile and a light- heartedness over flowed within me when I remembered I could use each hour in the next 48 hours the way I choose. I could be productive, I could be lazy, I could do something halfway in between.

That’s  exactly what I did. I took time to handle things that are important to me and I took time to rest- to let my mind wander, then caught it right on time before I started thinking of responsibilities and work. I must say I felt a little guilty laying around not doing anything. But why should I feel guilt? I think we’re so programmed to always be on the go that we find it difficult to relax, to not have to be busy doing something every waking hour.

So I’m really at peace today. So grateful for being able to take time for me, to de-stress, to enjoy the sunshine, to use time how I want.  I’m very happy today.  I hope the same for you. I hope you take time to do you.

Enough

I heard this word today by a motivational speaker. She made the point that when you know you are enough you will stop the struggle to get more and learn to accept, allow, and attract all that adds to you instead of who/what subtracts from you. When you know you have enough the desperate drive to get more will be replaced by the comforting flow of gratitude.

I paused and reflected on this and I must say she made valid points. Thoughts that kept coming to mind after this were: rat race, perfectionism, being over spent, overspending, keeping up with the Jones, anxiety, frustration.  None of that is appealing, or lead to happiness and peace.

When we’re content we’re happy. What defines your contentment?  I value peace tremendously. If it means staying away from the malls and online shopping for months to cut back on financial stress then I do it.  If it means getting together  with a friend at my favorite gelato shop I do it. If it means buying a plane ticket to an exciting new destination…yup I do it. But if it also means saying no….I do that too.  With time I’m learning to be content with enough.  I have enough of what I need, I am enough as a person so I make a great friend/companion/mate…

But truly, when you learn contentment- being satisfied with the things you have without constantly focusing on what you don’t have- your joy increases.  You’ll realize you have enough.

I long for peace that flows like a river.

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Colors of Life

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What’s your favorite color?

I could never pick just one as my favorite because there’s something captivating about each.  Yellow is fun and whimsical; pink is soft and nurturing; red is bold and feisty, purple is royal; green is natural and calming while blue is energetic; black is confident and strong while white is pure…at least that’s how I view them. So I tend to say my favorite color is in the berry family, like  fuchsia or magenta.  They’re Striking yet not over bearing.  So beautiful.  But truly I love most colors.  Color adds texture to your personality.

What color would you use to describe how you’ve been feeling?

I’d say lately I’ve been a mashup of many colors. With the pace of life- trying to get to and balance each responsibility- with life constantly changing and having to make adjustments, it all can be overwhelming. I balance that by making time for the more important things which include taking care of me. If I’m constantly expending myself then one day I’ll be all used up.  What’s that line from that Bill Withers song, “keep on using me till you use me up”?  That doesn’t work for me. And it shouldn’t work for you either.

Because we’re industrious and compassionate many of us tend to give our best to everyone else, like our employers and family, and what we have left for ourselves is just the rest.  Keep going like that and eventually you’ll have nothing for yourself or others.

So take time to enjoy the colors of life. “Taste the rainbow”. You’ll be happier, and since joy is contagious you’ll inspire others to be colorfully happy too.